though i rarely thought of it previously, adoption has been on my mind a lot this week. i’ve started a great book called “adopted for life” by russell d. moore, given to us by some friends, and have been having some good discussions with B on the topic. he always said he would like to adopt, and though i wasn’t against it for our family, i was rather neutral about the idea. this week, i have been challenged to see things differently, and to think through how the truths of our adoptions as sons of God should impact the way i live and the way i relate to the very idea of adoption.
here are some links i’ve been reading about the aversion to adoption in japan and issues with abandoned and abused children having no place in this culture. all of it is very hush-hush and behind the scenes here, something no one really wants to recognize, i think. i’m learning a lot, and what i’m reading is quite sad. the children living in japanese institutions are often referred to as the “invisible children,” for no one wants them, and as family ties are so important in this culture, the stigma of being an orphan will often follow them into adulthood, making it difficult for them to find employment, make friends, and even get married. if japanese couples do adopt, they will often go to great lengths to cover up the adoption — moving to a new city where no one knows them, or even “faking a pregnancy with pillows”, as one article states.
a desire is growing within me, to do something this culture deems strange and foolish.